There is something that really irks me. I know not all of you will agree, but I'm going to share anyway.
I hate it when I see a couple where each person does whatever they please, with no regard to the other person. I am talking about a married couple, as I do think there is a difference when dating and when married.
I, personally, feel that it is disrespectful to simply tell your spouse "I am going here, at this time, I will be back when I am back". Or, as I have seen happen sometimes, one person simply does something without even telling the other.
I ask my husband how he feels about me doing something. Do I need his permission, no...but do I want to know that he is okay with me going somewhere and do I want him to feel as though I respect him and his wishes, yes. I also expect the same from my husband.
With six kids, work, school, blogging, etc. etc., our schedule can get crazy and if we were to skip asking one another about doing something, we could potentially create chaos with our schedule. This is another reason why we don't just "do what we want".
Overall, whatever works for you and your marriage is what is right for you and your spouse...but it saddens me to see a couple where one person is affected by a disrespectful spouse who disregards the other partner when it comes to doing something outside their home and marriage.
There are also some things that I think invite trouble into a marriage. I think going to a bar, or drinking, without your spouse is a poor choice. Alcohol does not leave a person in the best state of mind and can most definitely cause you to let your self do something that you wouldn't if you weren't under the influence. Another thing is "hanging out" with the opposite gender. My husband is my best friend. I used to have a male best friend. When my husband and I started dating, I thought it was out of line that he expected me not to be friends with a person I had been friends with years before he came into the picture, but then I thought about how hurt I would be if he was close friends with a girl. I struggled with this for a while, but eventually my decision was made for me, and now I couldn't imagine having a best friend other than my husband. Both of these things relate to respecting your spouse; do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Am I the perfect wife? No....but do I try my best, yes. I respect my husband (even if at times he doesn't see that, I really do)! I try to do what I can to make him feel happy and secure in our marriage, and he does the same for me. My husband isn't "whipped", he respects me and is respectful of my feelings (most of the time, anyhow). I think this is the way marriage should work...and it works for us.
If you are married, do you ask your spouse to do something? What are your thoughts on this topic?